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Coming to a city near you

Ask before
you date.

Met someone on Hinge, Tinder or Bumble? Ask verified people in your area what they know, on a private side the person you’re asking about can never see.

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Cities with the most signups open first. No spam, never sold.

  • ID photos deleted after the check
  • Screenshots blocked
  • No ads, no trackers, never sold

Why now

The Facebook groups are going away.
The need isn’t.

For years, local dating-safety groups on Facebook were where people quietly checked on a match before a first date. Those groups are shutting down. Gotcha keeps what worked, people in your city looking out for each other, and fixes what never did.

What makes Gotcha different

Private by side

Women and men each get their own side. Nobody on the other side can open it, search it or even see that a post exists.

Real, verified people

Everyone passes a one-time ID and selfie check. No catfish, no fake accounts, no one under 18. We never keep your ID photos.

AI keeps it fair

Every post is checked before it goes up. No phone numbers, addresses, last names, rumors or pile-ons. Just real experiences.

Your area only

You see people from your own city, not the whole internet. Gotcha opens city by city, starting where the waitlist is biggest.

Safety & privacy

Built to protect you.
And your data.

Dating-safety apps have leaked users’ IDs before. Gotcha was designed so there’s almost nothing to leak: we only keep what the app needs to work, and everything else is never collected or is deleted.

We never keep your ID

Stripe runs the ID and selfie check. Gotcha gets back a yes or no, your side and your birth year, and Stripe deletes the images right after. No ID photos are stored anywhere.

No real names, ever

You post under a first name or nickname you choose. Other members never see your email, your last name or your photo.

Screenshots are blocked

Screenshots and screen recording are blocked on every screen with posts, so nothing gets passed around outside the app.

Invisible to the other side

The other side can’t open, search or even detect your posts. They aren’t hidden; they don’t exist for them.

Never sold. No ads.

No advertisers, no data brokers, no tracking pixels. You pay $2.99 a month, so you’re the customer, not the product.

Delete everything in one tap

Delete your account from the app any time. Your login is erased, and your posts stay anonymous as “Former member”.

Private details can’t be posted

Phone numbers, addresses, workplaces, last names and social handles are blocked before anyone sees them. That protects everyone, including you.

Encrypted in transit and at rest

Everything travels over HTTPS and is encrypted at rest on Microsoft Azure in the United States.

How it works

Three steps. About a minute.

  1. 1

    Verify once

    A quick ID and selfie check confirms you’re real, 18+, and puts you on your side.

  2. 2

    Ask about someone

    First name, rough age, which app you met on, and what you want to know.

  3. 3

    Hear from people who’ve been there

    Members nearby share what dating them was actually like, good or bad. You get a ping when they reply.

House rules

Real talk, not a pile-on.

Gotcha is for looking out for each other. The AI holds everyone to the same line.

Share

  • What happened to you
  • How it made you feel
  • Questions: “Has anyone been out with Jordan?”
  • Good experiences too

Never

  • Phone numbers, addresses, workplaces, last names
  • Rumors or secondhand stories stated as fact
  • Insults about looks, threats, “go message him”
  • Anything about anyone under 18

Membership

Price

$2.99/month

Less than a coffee. Paid, verified members are what keep the fakes out. Cancel any time in your iPhone settings.

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Questions

Good questions.

What is Gotcha?

Gotcha is a private iOS app for dating safety. ID-verified members in your area ask about someone they met on a dating app or in person, and other members share what dating that person was really like. It costs $2.99 a month and is opening city by city across the US.

Is Gotcha only for women?

No. Gotcha has a women’s side and a men’s side, with the same features and the same price. Each member belongs to one side, set by the ID check, and only ever sees posts from their own side.

Can the person I post about see what I wrote?

Not from the other side. A man can never open the women’s side and a woman can never open the men’s side, and posts from the other side don’t even show up as hidden. Screenshots and screen recording are blocked on every screen with posts.

How does Gotcha verify members?

Every member does a one-time ID and selfie check through Stripe Identity before seeing anything. It confirms you’re a real person and 18 or older, and sets your side. Gotcha only gets back a yes or no, your side and your birth year, and Stripe deletes the ID images and selfie right after the check. Gotcha never stores ID photos.

Is my personal data safe on Gotcha?

Gotcha keeps as little as possible. It stores your email for sign-in, the nickname you post under, your side, your city and your birth year. It never stores ID photos or your real name, never shows other members your email, has no ads or trackers, and never sells data. Everything is encrypted in transit and at rest, and you can delete your account in the app at any time.

Will anyone know I’m on Gotcha?

Other members on your side see only the first name or nickname you choose. Nobody on the other side can see you or your posts at all, and screenshots are blocked inside the app. Notifications are discreet and never show names, so nothing on your lock screen gives away what you’re reading.

What can’t be posted on Gotcha?

Every post and reply is checked by AI before anyone sees it. Phone numbers, addresses, workplaces, last names, social media handles and license plates are blocked, along with anything about a minor, threats, sexual content, degrading insults, and serious accusations stated as fact or passed along secondhand. Members share what happened to them, give their opinion, or ask a question.

Is Gotcha the same as the Facebook dating-safety groups?

No. Gotcha is an independent app and isn’t affiliated with any Facebook group. It does the same job, people in your area looking out for each other, with ID verification, separate private sides and AI moderation that the Facebook groups never had.

What happens if someone is posted about unfairly?

Anyone can ask for a post about them to be reviewed through a public removal request, without an account. Members can also report any post or reply. A post that several members report is hidden until a person reviews it.

How much does Gotcha cost?

Gotcha is $2.99 a month, billed through the App Store. You can cancel any time in your iPhone settings. Paid, ID-verified membership is what keeps fake accounts out.

When and where does Gotcha launch?

Gotcha opens city by city across the US, and the cities with the most people on the waitlist open first. Join the waitlist with your city, share it with friends nearby, and we’ll email you once when Gotcha opens there.

Be first in your city.

Gotcha opens city by city, and the cities with the most signups go first. Get on the list, send it to your friends, and we’ll tell you the day it opens near you.

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